It's been a while since I've written about books that I like. And there have been many since the last time I wrote a book report....but I have time and energy right now so I thought I'd tell you about the two most recent books I've read!"Wild Feminine" is by a Physical Therapist who specializes in the pelvic region of the female anatomy (I can hear all male readers drop out now. It's cool; I don't hold it against you). I checked it out from the library even though it normally is not a book I would be attracted to....Too drum circle-y and girly-woo-woo. But you know what I've realized/admitted to myself - and am proud of? I totally dig girly woo-woo! And my physical/spiritual health has been of predominant interest to me after a tumultuous past couple years that included crisis's of the health persuasion. Anyhoo, be prepared for TMI - after the birth of my daughter, I pee. When I would prefer not to. You know, sneezing, coughing, jumping, running, dancing. My doctors all say the same thing: kegels. I hate kegels. I always feel like my eyes are bulging out. But I decided to commit to kegels and bought a DVD about strengthening the pelvic floor and this book seemed like a good compliment to this endeavor.
There were a lot of interesting ideas in "Wild Feminine" that really made me go "hmmmm". In the author's opinion, we are spiritual/creative beings living in form, and if you are in a female form, that creative spirit lives in your "root" - your pelvic bowl. And if you aren't loving and caring for your pelvic bowl, it manifests in physical issues and "energy blockages".
And I have to be honest. I have never focused my attention on my uterus or my ovaries or my....you know. Even while pregnant. The whole area held as much interest to me as my gall bladder. I just took it for granted....as I realized, I do my whole physical self. I'm entering the age, though, where things don't just "work" anymore, and I no longer have the luxury of taking my body for granted. But I really appreciate experiencing that....because it made me realize that I was very much cut off from parts of my feminine self, and if you are a person who understands "chakras" - cut off from my second chakra. (I'll let you research that on your own. Don't need to digress off into Indian Health care and spirituality.)
A very cool "aha" moment (to quote The Lady Oprah-ness), is when I realized how much I was cringing over my daughter's obsession with all things pink, princess, make up, glitter....and she's FOUR. I came of age when feminism meant rejection of these things, because to identify with princesses was to subscribe to the belief that women were weak and needed to be "saved" by a prince, and happiness was defined by marriage and a castle. But that is only one aspect of the many meanings of fairy tales....and femininity. I LOVED fairy tales and princesses when I was little, too. But I shut that part of me down when I believed that I was sold a bill of goods about what it meant to be a woman, as defined by fairy tales and the culture at large. But what if you re-claimed that Princess Archetype? What if it's ok to love beautiful things? What if it's ok to think that you are beautiful? And what if there's much, much more to fairy tales and femininity than the simplistic Disney message of Prince as be all and end all? (Think "Women who Run with the Wolves". There's an oldy but a goody) As long as you don't completely identify with appearances (see book report about "The Power of Now"), enjoying "girly" things is....fun. For both females and males (see, the men already exited stage left in the beginning so I can say that). It feels like such a relief to admit that I like princesses too! (not overly fond of pink, but give it time....)
Anyway, I think this is a book worth reading not only for women with health issues in that *ahem* region, but for any woman who wants to expand their perception of what it means to be a woman. It's definitely changed in the past 10-20 years, and I think it is also important for us as mothers to get more clear on the feminine for the sake of our children as well as ourselves. And there's a chapter on "v" massage. Can't miss out on that.

Ok so the other book I've recently read, and I am SO behind the times on this one, is "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. I've tried in the past but could never get through the first chapter. I guess I wasn't ready for the ideas contained therein. But I have become one of THOSE people....the ones who have a sticky note on every page denoting an interesting passage or sentence. I'm still digesting the ideas, but I have to say....Oprah madness aside (my husband on some sort of principle will buy no book that has "Oprah's Book Club" stamped on the front. Personally, I think she has picked some gooders in the past....but don't tell my husband)...the book really resonated with me! So here's the gist of it.
We are not our thoughts. We are not our brain. We are not our stories. Everything we have used to define ourselves - is probably not our True Self. The brain is a tool to get through this world, and part of the way it does this is that it created and ego-self-image. This ego self image is everything we have gone through in the past, every sad/hard story, every good story, the things we have, the roles we play, the jobs we have...
So what is the True Self? Eckhart calls it "presence" or the "observer/watcher". How do you re-identify with this self? Being present NOW. Because the past and future are illusions. Ok this all sounds pretty esoteric but seriously, give this book a try. (And he can explain it a whole lot better). It was personally interesting for me because I tend to be a worry wort, and it has some very practical suggestions on how not to let that aspect of my ego/brain take over. One of the bigger things I gleaned from the book (and watching the beginning of the webcast on Oprah.com) was that I was starting to identify with my lack of serotonin production; ie: my anxiety disorder. I was starting to make it part of who I was/am. Eckhart's suggestion, which I am putting into effect NOW is to no longer talk about it. I had the experience; it has lead me to where I am, but it does not define me. This will be a challenge for me because I love to share aspects of my life and to listen to others, and I think to share things that others are reluctant to talk about might be helpful. But I've become too identified with it. So, bye bye story.
This is one of many practices I would like to try in order to quiet my "monkey mind" and find the stillness where True Self resides. Another thing I found quite fascinating is that I am a practitioner (? not sure if that is the correct term) of the I-Ching. The philosophy and advice that I have gathered from this ancient book has helped me through some very difficult times. But often I've felt lost by some of the terminology that the I-Ching uses - and I feel like "The Power of Now" explains much of what the I-Ching has tried (and tried, and tried) to convey to me.
So if you feel like some great spiritual reading, both of these I found to be riveting and I will be adding to my personal library.
(Other awesome books of this genre - "Broken Open" and "The Seekers Guide" by Elizabeth Lesser).



































